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No relationship is perfect, even if you say how crazy you are about each other. And that's okay. In fact, recognizing and accepting the imperfection is a healthy way to address whatever issues you may have with your partner and your relationship.

However, there may come a point when you do not know what to do. So, you would resort to couples therapy. But what if they don't feel the same way, or what if they have no idea that you even have a problem with the relationship? 

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How to Ask Your Partner About Going to Couples Therapy

Here's how to ask your partner about going to couples therapy without making them think you want to break up with them. The first thing to remember is that you don't have to wait for things to be at breaking point to start going to couples therapy.

If you think that you have tried everything you can and might need someone else's help, then there is no need to doubt your feelings. New York-certified sex therapist Rosara Torrisi said that wanting to go is already enough reason.

Next is to think about the timing. Just like anything else, the timing always matters. Even if you have been thinking about it for a while now, but you only bring it up during an argument, your partner might not be motivated to go. Make sure to connect on an emotional level before asking them.

Additionally, remember to communicate openly. This is a requirement for any relationship, and bringing up a sensitive topic requires a healthy exchange of issues and goals. Communicate your opinions well and be respectful of theirs.

What If Your Partner Says No?

If you think you tried your best to let your partner know why you want to go to couples therapy and they still say no, maintain your respectfulness of their decision. 

Ask why they do not want to go and try to understand from their point of view. From there, ask about possible solutions and what you can both do to resolve the problems.