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After someone hears good news, all they most likely want to do is share this news with their family and friends. However, keeping positive secrets might generate a distinct sense of vitality.

In a recent study, 2,800 participants aged 18 to 78 referred to a list of 15 positive experiences, out of which they said they kept five to six undisclosed. When asked to reflect on shared versus secret positive events, those contemplating undisclosed good news reported significantly heightened "psychological energy."

In a report, lead researcher Dr. Michael Slepian emphasized this energy as akin to profound engagement rather than caffeine-induced vigor.

How long should you keep your secret?

Dr. Slepian's findings don't propose indefinite silence regarding positive news. Participants felt invigorated by maintaining the secret, irrespective of intent to share. Comparable to savoring everyday pleasures, spending time cherishing a positive secret could magnify its impact even if eventual disclosure is planned.

Elaborating on the psychology of savoring, Dr. Slepian drew parallels to choosing a thoughtful gift and relishing the recipient's eventual delight. He suggested extending the period of secrecy, even momentarily, amplifies the sense of anticipation and enjoyment.

The varied nature of secrets

Not all secrets bear the same weight. Negative secrets, like withheld lies or breached trust, tend to drain individuals. In contrast, positive secrets seem to invigorate. The motivation behind withholding positive news often stems from personal values, contributing to a sense of control and vitality.

Understanding the nuanced effects of positive secrets, the research unveiled the potential benefits of embracing such experiences privately before eventual revelation. It emphasized the importance of "savoring" these moments to amplify their impact on one's well-being.