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The trauma caused by feelings of being betrayed goes beyond everyday disappointments and reaches the depths of psychological distress caused by the disloyalty of people close to an individual. 

Betrayal trauma occurs when individuals experience a breach of trust from someone they depend on for survival or well-being. This can manifest in various forms, including infidelity, deception, or abuse. 

Psychologist and expert Dr. Jennifer Freyd introduced the term "betrayal blindness," which refers to the psychological phenomenon where individuals unconsciously overlook or deny betrayal by someone close to them. This defense mechanism shields them from the emotional pain associated with acknowledging the breach of trust, allowing them to maintain a sense of security and stability in their relationships.

Betrayal trauma disrupts the fundamental need for safety and security. The brain's response to betrayal activates stress and threat systems, triggering emotional turmoil. Betrayal trauma can lead to symptoms akin to post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD, such as intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, and emotional numbing.

Betrayal in relationships

In romantic relationships, betrayal can shatter the foundation of trust, leaving individuals grappling with feelings of rejection, worthlessness and insecurity. The impact can extend beyond the initial discovery, creating a lasting imprint on one's emotional landscape.

Family betrayals and long-term consequences

Betrayal within families can be equally devastating. The very people who are supposed to provide support and protection become sources of harm, leading to fractured familial bonds and enduring psychological scars. Long-term consequences may include difficulties forming and maintaining relationships, trust issues and challenges in regulating emotions.

Coping and healing

Understanding betrayal trauma is the first step to effective coping and healing. Therapeutic interventions, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy or CBT and trauma-focused approaches, can help individuals navigate the emotional aftermath of betrayal. Rebuilding trust in oneself and others is a gradual process that requires commitment and support.