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Delusional thinking, or "delulu," can be both beneficial and detrimental depending on how it is applied.

What is Being 'Delulu'?

"Delulu" is a slang term derived from "delusional," commonly used on platforms like TikTok. It originally described fans in K-pop communities who believed they would have personal relationships with their idols. Minaa B., a licensed social worker and host of The Verywell Mind podcast, explained that "delulu" now broadly refers to holding unrealistic ideas that are not grounded in reality. These ideas are often considered a coping mechanism or a form of manifestation by some social media users.

Is There a Right Way to Be 'Delulu'?

While the concept of being "delulu" might seem harmless or even empowering, it can have both positive and negative effects on mental health. Dr. Rachel Hoffman, a licensed clinical social worker and chief clinical officer at Zeera, a digital therapy app, emphasized the importance of moderation. She explained that while daydreaming and fantasizing can be motivating and inspiring, relying too heavily on delusional thinking without taking practical steps can be harmful.

For instance, manifesting success or positive outcomes can encourage people to take proactive steps towards their goals. However, if these delusions are not accompanied by actionable efforts, they can lead to disappointment and stress when reality does not align with expectations.

Potential Dangers

Dr. Hoffman also highlighted the potential dangers of "emotional masturbation," where one imagines future successes or relationships without any basis in reality. This can lead to a significant impact on self-esteem if the imagined scenarios do not come to fruition. Minaa B. adds that excessive reliance on delusional thinking can prevent people from addressing real-life challenges and managing their emotions effectively.

Finding the Balance

To practice "delulu" thinking healthily, it is essential to maintain a balanced perspective. Regular self-reflection, embracing a range of emotions, and practicing gratitude are key strategies. Acknowledging both positive and negative emotions helps people stay grounded and avoid the pitfalls of unrealistic thinking.

In conclusion, while "delulu" thinking can be a useful tool for motivation and inspiration, it is crucial to pair it with practical actions and maintain a realistic outlook. By doing so, people can harness the benefits of positive thinking without falling into the trap of delusion.