Mental Health

3 Reasons People Engage in Chronic Self-Sacrifice

By Dynne C. | Update Date: Jun 13, 2024 08:00 AM EDT

Chronic self-sacrifice, while often seen as admirable, can lead to serious personal consequences.

What is Chronic Self-Sacrifice?

Chronic self-sacrifice involves consistently putting others' needs above one's own to the detriment of personal well-being. Psychology defines self-sacrifice as abandoning personal interests for someone else's well-being. This behavior often leads to neglecting one's own needs and repressing emotions, resulting in significant physical and mental strain. People with a "self-sacrifice" schema tend to prioritize others so much that they live under constant stress and may struggle with anxiety, depression, and burnout.

Reasons People Engage in Chronic Self-Sacrifice

Forced into the Habit by Circumstances

Many people develop self-sacrificing behaviors due to circumstances they faced in childhood. For instance, someone who had to care for a disabled parent or younger sibling might learn to associate their self-worth with helping others. Over time, these people may believe that their needs are less important and that they must always put others first. This early caregiving role can instill a lifelong pattern of self-sacrifice, making it difficult for them to prioritize their own needs.

It Makes Them Feel Good

Some people engage in self-sacrifice because it makes them feel good. The act of helping others can provide a sense of fulfillment and purpose. These people might fear being perceived as selfish if they prioritize their own needs, leading to feelings of guilt. The appreciation and gratitude they receive from others can reinforce their self-sacrificing behavior, making them feel valued and like a "good person." However, this can become problematic when they continually ignore their own needs and desires.

Fear of Confrontation or Upsetting Others

A significant number of self-sacrificers are driven by a fear of confrontation and upsetting others. These people-pleasers worry that refusing to help will result in anger or rejection from those around them. They find it difficult to say no, even when it means compromising their own well-being. This fear of damaging relationships can push them to sacrifice their own needs repeatedly, perpetuating a cycle of chronic self-sacrifice.

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