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Understanding the texting habits of narcissists can help identify emotional manipulation and protect oneself from potential abuse.

Narcissistic Texting Habits

Dr. Kerry McAvoy, a psychologist with over 20 years of experience, specializes in helping abuse victims and has revealed common texting behaviors exhibited by narcissists.

Expect Immediate Responses

Narcissists often demand immediate responses to their messages, regardless of the recipient's circumstances. They expect others to prioritize their messages and may react negatively if responses are not prompt. This behavior is linked to their sense of self-importance and need for special treatment. If they do not receive a quick reply, they may make the other person feel guilty or ashamed, maintaining control over the relationship.

Send Mass Sentimental Texts

Another behavior is sending mass sentimental messages to multiple people, including past lovers, friends, and potential new partners. This tactic ensures a wide range of responses, providing the narcissist with constant attention and admiration. This need for admiration fuels their behavior, making them feel valued and important.

Overly Attached to Their Phones

Narcissists tend to be excessively attached to their phones, using them to stay connected with others and receive continuous validation. This attachment is driven by their need for immediate access to sentimental messages, likes, and comments on social media. A 2023 study found that people with narcissistic tendencies are more likely to be attached to their devices, especially for social media use.

Delayed Responses to Your Messages

When it comes to responding to others, narcissists often delay their replies. This tactic allows them to maintain control and dominance, making the other person wait and feel anxious. The delay in response can be minutes, hours, or even days, depending on the narcissist's desire to assert their dominance.

Send Explicit Messages Too Soon

Narcissists may also send explicit messages or photos prematurely in a relationship. This behavior is rooted in self-gratification and seeking attention. A 2019 study highlighted that men often send nude photos for self-gratification and attention-seeking purposes. Detroit sex therapist Russell Stambaugh noted that this unsolicited behavior is often viewed as aggressive.

Send Incomplete, Anxiety-Inducing Messages

Narcissists might send incomplete messages that leave the recipient feeling anxious and confused. These messages are designed to destabilize the recipient and make them question the status of the relationship. Examples include vague messages that imply dissatisfaction without explanation, causing unnecessary worry and self-doubt.

Consistently Send the Same Media

Finally, narcissists may repeatedly send the same photos, songs, or videos to keep the recipient emotionally attached. This tactic serves as a constant reminder of special moments, keeping the recipient emotionally hooked and ensuring they do not leave the relationship.