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Eggshell parenting is a harmful style where children feel the need to constantly avoid triggering their parents' emotional outbursts.

What is Eggshell Parenting?

Eggshell parenting, a term popularized on TikTok, describes a harmful style where children walk on eggshells to avoid triggering their parent's unpredictable behavior. This parenting style is characterized by erratic and inconsistent reactions from the parent, which can have significant negative impacts on a child's emotional well-being. 

Psychologist Dr. Kim Sage's viral video has brought attention to this issue, highlighting its prevalence and consequences. Licensed marriage and family therapist Saba Harouni Lurie explains that such parents are often unpredictable, and sometimes caring but frequently prone to emotional outbursts, leaving children anxious and insecure. Dana McNeil, another licensed therapist, notes that eggshell parents' reactions can be inappropriate or overly reactive, making children feel responsible for their parents' emotional stability.

How to Break the Cycle

Self-Reflection and Acknowledgment

Recognizing the problem is the first step. Parents must reflect on their behavior and its impact on their children. Accepting that they have been parenting in this manner is crucial for change.

Developing Self-Awareness

Understanding and managing one's emotions is essential. Parents should learn to identify their triggers and work on responding calmly to their children's behaviors.

Seeking Professional Help

Engaging with a licensed therapist can provide the necessary support and strategies to develop healthier parenting techniques. A trauma-informed therapist can help address underlying issues contributing to this parenting style.

Establishing Consistent Boundaries

Consistency in reactions and boundaries can help create a stable environment for children. It is important to respond predictably and appropriately to children's actions.

Learning Self-Regulation

Parents need to practice self-soothing techniques and emotional regulation to handle stress and prevent outbursts. This includes recognizing and addressing their own emotional needs.

Improving Communication

Open and honest communication with children about emotions can foster a more supportive and understanding relationship. Encouraging children to express their feelings without fear of retribution is key.

Family Therapy

Participating in family therapy sessions can help improve communication and resolve conflicts within the family. It provides a safe space for all family members to express their feelings and work towards healthier interactions.